If you can’t be replaced, you can’t be promoted….

I remember reading once that if you cannot be replaced, you cannot be promoted. I have said this to a few and I am often met with arguments and questions. So many are afraid that if you can be replaced, you are not needed. There is a difference between being irreplaceable and indispensable.

Being irreplaceable means that you get pigeon-holed into one position and others cannot see you in any other area of responsibility. You become the go-to guy for a particular topic and your opinion is not sought for other issues.

When you become indispensable, you are more valuable to the team than merely your job responsibility. You are an integral part of the team and your opinion is considered when there are new opportunities or issues to be resolved. You are empowered to do you job with a level of autonomy that you have earned though diligence and integrity.

What sets the indispensable apart from the irreplaceable? There are four distinct characteristics.

◾Generosity – the indispensable share their knowledge with others. They are willing to teach others the skills they have. They mentor others and are not threatened with others learning what they do.
◾Networking – the indispensable build a network with others in their company and industry.They know who can help a friend or colleague.
◾Attitude- the indispensable finds value in their contribution to the team. S/he comes into work everyday ready to tackle the day and enjoy their work. They do not complain about the job they do or how hard the work is.
◾Curiosity – the indispensable are curious about the people and responsibilities around them. They want to understand the process and how they fit into it.

Being indispensable is a decision and a choice everyday.

Season of Giving – Are You Making Time for Yourself?

In this season of giving, we make time to see family and friends. Rushing from one party to the next and falling into bed exhausted from giving of ourselves to everyone we feel we have to… when do we make time for ourselves?

In my work, people come to me wanting to know how to get back control of their lives. When we review their calendar and their family’s calendar, it is often filled with obligations and not passions. We are so busy planning for the future, that we forget to live in the present. How may of us have calendars completely filled with social obligations that we dread attending? Or, are our children running from activity to activity participating in sports or lessons that they do not enjoy?

I hear so many complain that they are exhausted from doing so much for others and feel guilty for saying no to an invitation or request. When did saying no become so full of angst and anxiety? What are we teaching our children if we expect them to do well at school and then schedule them for the equivalent of a part time job with activities? Are we teaching them to be workaholics or that enjoying life is not the goal?

What about ourselves? Are we living a meaningful existence running from one obligation to another? Wearing ourselves out by depriving ourselves of sleep and relaxation? Do you take time to reflect on your goals, desires, passions? What are you doing to feed your soul?

Making time for yourself is an act of giving. It allows you to be the best that you can be for yourself and others.